I have a friend.
She is pregnant.
With twins.
Also have diabetes.
Currently is in work.
In the last 72 hours I looked on twitter what I am going to name, the "experts" Mummy. my friend has regularly been updating its status, showing his fustration to as plans are to be changed (the whole way through she was told c-sections are now she leaving of course manpower), being far from home, avoid boredom, in pain, listened too etc. And each time she places these updates.Something happens. MuMs from far and wide flock straight to this upgrade. And leave comments such as:
Yes they do go to 10 If you're just in the early stages, even when the waters go or having contractions to go, but soon as they take you upto Department/delivery room so he can stay all night because work can go on for ages, when I was there girls loads wanted der husbands/bfs woudlnt let them stay but they then return the next day and some were still in work but the cause has soon say same x
Sweetie if blood pressure is high and can't get down you will be staying now x I'm sorry for being the barer of bad news, but its just safer.S will be able to stay until 10 pm that evening in each partner are allowed until end x
Above normal is two mothers.No medical training, do not work in a hospital, they never worked in a hospital.And yet these mothers who offer advice on what "they" will do with blood pressure and with rules of hospital.
This isn't the first time I noticed this.Generally, once you've had a baby your expert on childbirth suddenly. People remember their stories of birth with all details of new pregnant women who are quite worried how. they offer their words of support and encouragement to places that it cannot be intentional.
When I was pregnant, I had the chance that not many people around me had already children and those who have had children of 10 and older so I had one thing in the long forgotten and they only offered me advice if I asked for it. However, in recent months, watching the various friends/aquantinces falling pregnant I've seen an increase in new mothers shoving their experiences and knowledge about these mothers. and I can't help but Weather is no wonder that think before doing so. one comment that I'm sure my friend doesn't really need to read, as you know from my personal experience, however, was "was 26 hours of work and then an emergency c-section" Well done young woman successfully you suceeded in making such a working mother feel junk.
Perhaps with the publication of these pregnancy/parenting related updates and dilemmas on Facebook and twitter that we are in a round about way asking for input of peoples do? Unwanted advice or are we asking indirectly?
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